LOVE

WHAT IS LOVE?
          Love is an intense feeling of tender affection and compassion. It is a passionate feeling of romantic and sexual desire and longing for the opposite sex (i.e the non homosexuals). Is love just another four letter word that people now use for anybody and everybody? How would you know you are in love? How would you know the person you are having this feeling for? How will you know who returns this feeling? Do you really know how love feels? Do you know wat it feels like to be in love? Are you even in love at all? Answer the following questions below and maybe you'll be able to answer the above questions. Enjoy................................

QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO KNOW IF YOU ARE IN LOVE

QUESTION 1:
 Who am i?
         You need to know yourself. If there is anybody you need to know, its you. if you get into an fallout with someone and the person asks you "WHO ARE YOU?", what will be your response? Will you say "I'm Tunji" or u'll say "I'm a human being" or your response would be "I don't know", or will you be dumbfounded and caught unawares by the question? There's a saying in Yoruba land that says "you dont know who loves you, you only know those you love", you dont know the minds of others, you dont know the decievers, the gold diggers, the ones that bet on you, the ones that will flee in your days of trouble, the ones that will reject your pregnancy. You only know those you will stay with for better for worse. Know who you are and the first step in loving is CHECKED.

QUESTION 2:
 Who is He/She?
            That is a good question that you should ask yourself all the time. if you are asked that question, what would be your response? Would it be "He's a banker" or "She's my girlfriend"? How much do you know about the person you claim to love? do you know his/her dark sides? are you seeing what you want to see or are you seeing all there is to see? Who is he/she outside your romantic world? Do you really know your partner? Would you be embarrased to find out certain thingas about your partner from outsiders? Are there little pieces of information you are neglecting that really counts? Know who your partner is and the second stage in loving is CHECKED.

QUESTION3:
 Why do you love your partner?
         What is his/her point of attraction? What attracted you to your partner? Was it love at first sight? If it was, what do you understand by love at first sight? Was it flambuoyant car he was riding? Was it the perfume he/she was wearing that day? Is it the loads of gifts he showers you with that makes you love him? Is it his money? Is it because he is an actor or a famous musician? Is it her incomparable beauty that makes you love her? or is it because the guy is handsome, clean, fresh, rich and speaks fluent phonetical English? Is it the way he soothes you with the words of his tongue and tells you all that you want to hear in tense periods that makes you know he is the one? Is it because he/she is good in bed? Is he/she really filling the void space in you? Do you feel incomplete without him/her? Are you dating him/her because you need a guy to show off to your friends or a damsel to your pals? Are you really satisfied? Would you like to spend the rest of your life with the person you think you are in love with? Why are you in love with d person? Does the person add value to your life in all or any aspect at all? Aspects like spiritually, emotionally, inspirationally, morally, sexually, financially? What exactly would you gain or achieve with the person? If you are able to answer dese and you are satisfied with the answers, then the third stage in loving is CHECKED.

QUESTION 3:
 Is the feeling mutual?
 Are you loved in return? There r cases where a guy once loved a girl and afer sometime , the feeling fades away. If you are trully in love in love with someone and the person cannot date you due to different reasons, what would you do? What if the person just doesnt like you at all? What if the person cannot stand you? What if the person is seeing someone else?What if the person sees you as a brother, sister or just a friend and nothing more? Would you just give up, back out, stop loving? Left to me, i believe if any of that was easy for you to do, then you never really loved the person. I wont really base the issue on my own opinion but take out time to think it over if this person is really worth your trouble. If you are preety sure that the feeling is mutual, then the fourth stage in loving is CHECKED.

CONCLUSION:
          Be happy when you are in love because love is the best thing that can happen to you. Love is good, love is sincere, love is not confused,  love is sweet, love is compassionate, love is not jealous, love is not wicked, last of all, LOVE IS LOVE.

                                                                                                           Compiled and written by Anu Anis